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about an abusive spouse?
is very plain: If you or your children are in physical danger,
get out now and contact the authorities. Don't go back unless you
feel safe--with no doubts or concerns about your safety. Being married
does not mean you need to subject yourself to an abusive spouse.
Being married does not mean you must stay in a place where you will
be physically harmed.
FROM ANYONE, INCLUDING A SPOUSE, WHO IS ABUSING YOU!
Does this mean
divorce? Not necessarily. However, if someone is physically abusing
their spouse, it's most likely that person is not a Christian and
for all practical purposes that person has left the marriage. So
based on 1 Corinthians 7 the Bible allows divorce. But whether you
divorce should be based on the circumstances.
if the continued marriage opens the door to continued abuse--possibly
the legal system does not allow you to get as far away from your
spouse as needed--then a divorce may need to be considered.
If you stay in an abusive situation you are an enabler. You are
enabling your spouse to continue in their abusive ways. Don't do
that. It is important that you get out and get away from them ASAP.
Remaining married does not mean physically remaining in a location
near your spouse. If you are being abused, get out, get away. Get
yourself to a place and situation in which your spouse can not harm
you. If necessary, get a restraining order. Do what you need to
do to protect yourself and your children.
you don't know where to turn, Focus on the Family offers telephone
counseling for people in abusive relationships. They are available
Monday through Friday from 8am until 4pm (mountain time, 11am until
6pm eastern time). Their number is: 1-719-531-5181.